A month later…

Christmas was ok. Infection was gone and the mountains were awesome. We had a nice dinner with family and it was worth going.

By the time we got home Amy had another infection. That got treated and then a new one developed. Omg it’s never ending. Friday she spent all afternoon in urgent care. They changed her antibiotics from the one the urologist prescribed. Saturday she spent all day at ER because she had severe stomach pain. They did a CTSCAN that showed nothing was wrong. No abscess, no stones, no nothing.

Today is Tuesday and she still feels unwell with moderate pain in her flank.
I’m so burnt out because adding to this chaos we got a puppy dec 31. Eight week old golden doodle. I wasn’t sure this was a good idea since Amy’s health is unstable but she really wanted to add to our family so I reluctantly agreed. The dog is a ton of work. We’re working on biting right now. I hope this will turn out to be worth it because I am slowly unraveling. Amy is trying really hard but she is limited and her energy is low.

I’m sad. Being burnt out means I have less to give but I need so much more and there’s no where to get it from. Amy doesn’t have anything left to give once she deals with the dog and the dog takes an incredible amount of time and energy.

I quit the caregiver support group. I was getting anxious the night before and there wasn’t enough support and too much negativity. I’m now quite alone.

Here’s some advice if you ever have to deal with a burnt out caregiver. Don’t tell them what to do when they say “things aren’t going well”. Chances are they just need to talk or vent. They don’t need to be questioned on all the decisions they’ve made. Just listen without judgement.