surgery update

Amy’s minor kidney surgery went well. No complications afterwards. There was a small temperature spike but that resolved itself. Yeah! Now, we just wait until the antibiotics cease to make sure no infections grow. I’m almost feeling like we might be able to make some plans going forward.

Our anniversary is at the end of September and I want to go out for dinner and to a play. A little worried about booking play tickets in case the infection recurs.
someone suggested we stay overnight in a hotel. But to be truthful, it’s too much work. Amy’s supplies and needs are too complex for one night and we can’t sleep in the same bed for various reasons.
I’m doing much better taking care of myself. That feels so empowering. I’ve decided certain people just don’t like me and I can’t change that. I just need to move on and I’m feeling more like I can do that.
The one thing I wish is that one person would take an interest in how I’m doing. Not the superficial “how are ya?” But really ask and deal with the answer.

My parents are moving into assisted living this week. I’m not able to help much because it will cause me so much anxiety that I have to set some boundaries. Too many big personalities, too many bodies will cause me to stress. I did agree to help them unpack one afternoon. If that’s all I can do then it has to be good enough. They have lots of help and lots of money to hire help.

Amy went away for a few days. Tenting for 2 nights and spent time with her family. I was supposed to go but since our cat sitter was also away we decided it was better to stay home. Good and bad decision. I would love to be out in nature but really, it’s too hot for me. I don’t need to spend anymore time with her family but now I’m lonely.

We went down to one car a few years ago when the cancer came back and Amy stopped working. I really regret that now. It’s very limiting for me not to have the ability to go out.

If I knew the cancer was gone for good then a second car would be mandatory. But her history shows that we will possibly get a break but it’s most likely to show up again. If she goes back to work then a car will be necessary.

that’s all for today. I hope there’s no fires where you are and you are blessed with peace.